This is a topic that has been on my mind much lately. And I do not want to turn this into a bashing thread on women - but I always push the envelope in thinking (this is how you grow and shape your views more correctly and fully - or get a bunch of angry comments and sulk off to the nearest exit....lol).
My roomie - who has been single his whole life - was looking over his lds dating site last night and I was chatting with him. One of his major concerns as a single guy - and wanting to get married - is that he simply will not be able to make the grade of economic prowess expected by the average female in the Church. He lives in a modest house that has not been updated in 30 years - and knows that it will be expected that he drop $100K+ on renos before she will consider it "habitable". His comment is that they always are comparing sideways (looking around at what all the other sisters have), and expect to be put up in like style and manner. His eyesight has failed him and he is no longer employed - so the possibility of going there simply does not exist. He, like many single LDS men, who cannot meet that one bar (but are fine in every other way), has simply given up and will maybe be a ministering angel. It is my impression on the situation - that, with all things being otherwise equal, many of his potential mates would rather pass him over and miss out on companionship, intimacy in all its forms, security - financial and whatever he could provide with old betsy and double ought buckshot, than live in some form of poverty. Not that these women want to commit to having children (they want to make sure papa birdie can bring home the worms while there are chicks in the nest), they are too old in his demographic. They simply want to be esteemed as not being married to a "financial loser". Righteousness equals financial success, right?? Of course, that last statement was dripping with sarcasm. We live (Utah) in a culture that has the highest per-capita existence of plastic surgeons. They are not there to fix an overabundance of congenital defects like cleft palates and lips - these are to slam in those fake implants, nip and tuck those extra folds and do other things so those 50 year old women can compete with those 30 year old women. Is that not the definition of "consuming it upon our lusts"? Would that resource spent on the plastic fakery not be better spent helping those who are in abject poverty? Is this not those who supposedly have a higher calling? Could this not be used to help others - instead of plunging us into a state where we will be looking up from hell and begging for those meek who suffered for lack of our largesse, to come and provide us some relief from our eternal flame that cannot be quenched?
In no way am I saying that the men of the Church do not have their problems. There are not enough ones and zeroes to go into all of them. BUT - I can say that I am not alone in my thinking. There is a problem in the Church with worldliness. Amongst my single friends (who are not LDS nor keeping the Law of Chastity), the best aphrodisiac (and attractant to a female), is money. Show them the nice car, the nice house, the fat bank account and you are in - 50 Shades of Grey style....... The running joke out there is that if that character in that movie lived in a trailer court, she would NEVER have given him the time of day. It is all about wealth and power. Our women have become intoxicated with it. Many men have, as well. They know if they want the most beautiful women (men are drawn to beauty first), then they must have the power/money/wealth in order to attract her. I knew that as a kid in high school - and poured a substantial amount of money into my beat up '66 Mustang coupe so that I could attract the attention of the girls. I had to dress in the $50 Brittania jeans and turn my nose up at the JC Penney Toughskins in order to pull her in. It was that simple - and my mom used to chide me for my prideful attitude. It was driven by my need to impress the girls. Money (or the appearance of having ample amounts of it along with the popularity it brought) was the currency. I was just paying the price of admission to get into their world.
As a prescient and thinking adult - it is all foolishness and I now call it Babylon. I pretty much reject it. Money is now a means to first bless the life of my family - and then see how much I can do to bless the lives of others. I am not setting myself up here - but this is the Zion spirit. Only those who have it, will make it into the next phase of Millennial living. It will (literally) be the currency of the next 1000 years as the god of this world and his hellish minions are cast to the curb as we crowd out selfish desires and replace those with thoughts and actions of "what can I do to bless your life?".
The rest will be gone as the purge sweeps through our land - and all we used to cling to (beauty, money, power, fame), is laid waste. Isaiah 4:4 talks of this directly. For those (women specifically), who have looked sideways on the (meek) lowly men who possessed no power, handsomeness, money - those who will end up inheriting the earth - they will have only those for breeding partners. Those who have arrogantly said that they would never share their man (rejected openly Section 132) - they will come to an understanding. It will be a painful lesson in the ultimate form of Consecration. I will look on with pity for them - but know it is all just part of the sifting process and a necessary part of the Pride Cycle. Come what may - and let us love it! At least there will once again be growth - and the saying of "All is Well in Zion" will not be met with scorn and derision from those who know better.
The Book of the Prophet Isaiah
Chapter 4
Zion and her daughters will be redeemed and cleansed in the millennial day—Compare 2 Nephi 14.
1 And
in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.
2 In that day shall the branch of the
Lord be beautiful and glorious, and the fruit of the earth
shall be excellent and comely for them that are escaped of Israel.
3 And it shall come to pass,
that he that is left in Zion, and he that remaineth in Jerusalem, shall be called holy, even every one that is written among the living in Jerusalem:
4 When the Lord shall have washed away the filth of the daughters of Zion, and shall have purged the blood of Jerusalem from the midst thereof by the spirit of judgment, and by the spirit of burning.
5 And the
Lord will create upon every dwelling place of mount Zion, and upon her assemblies, a cloud and smoke by day, and the shining of a flaming fire by night: for upon all the glory
shall be a defence.
Let the nasty comments begin...... Sorry if you were offended - but I have to say it as I (and Isaiah) call it. I would love to hear respectful contrary comments or life experiences if you disagree.