ONE TRUE LOVE?

 So, many that read this rag faithfully over time will know that I am a fan of polygamy.  Not because I desire the complications and messiness of it all.  I really do not even desire the sex of it all, in a very base sense of how many people perceive it.  What I desire is the deep associations of solid relationships that rock to the core of a person.  I woud be dead if life were just shallow associations with friends (the menial stuff of day to day).  I crave very deep connections with everyone I come in contact with.  It is often for this reason, I disallow relationships with those who have rejected deeper principles that I am enamored with (temples, life after death, priesthood power, etc).  Though I have very few close male friends, I desire deeper relationships with them and know that the key to that is a deep spiritual connection first.  Most males can ever go there.  Many females can, so I often attach myself to females who are capable of depth.  My wife and I connected very deeply very early on, and it has not let up in our 31 years of marriage.   We have been tested to the absolute limits, and we still have this amazing bond.  It never was about sex or about the day to day stuff, but about this very deep and abiding bond, forged in our love of God and the truth.

That is worth more to me than anything in this world.  You could literally place a cubic mile of gold in front of me and I would just brush it aside in favor of what I have with her.  It is the same bond I have with Joseph and expect/hope to have with Jesus.  It is the true spice of life.  The only thing that gives it meaning.  It has been forged in the furnace of affliction and God is the great alchemist.

Without temple covenants, it is nothing.  With no Priesthood power, it is meaningless.  Without a connection to Christ and the Atonement; purely worthless.  This is why I am baffled as to why people throw that all away, or seemingly treat it all with indifference.  Some days, I feel like I am on a different planet because my experience is all so different.  I would trade my experience for nothing.

What I look forward to, is when all relationships are of that level.  Deep and abiding.  This is how things are on the other side of the veil.  My kids get exasperated when I share my Dallin experience with others.  Over and over they hear it.  What I am doing is pinging people to know if they are on the same level.  Most are too caught up with the thing of the world, and so we never form any deep connections.  I move on.  I am mining the human population for those who feel the same things.  When I read Visions of Glory, I felt the same connection with Spencer.  He has had more deep and powerful experiences, but I get him.  We will understand each other when we meet one day.  I know the same will be true of Joseph Smith.  I get him.  I get why he was sealed to all of those women (and men).  Because they were on the same level with him.  Of all, I am most impressed with Eliza R. Snow.  What a lady!  What a pair!  Two jewels in God's crown!!  Infinite potential when bound together.  There are no limits.  No depth, no heights that they cannot attain in God's realms.

If we truly love someone, all we desire is that they reach their potential.  Physically, of course.  But most importantly, spiritually.  In a truly consecrated environment, it all boils down to what is best for our fellow travellers.  We would never violate a commandment, not because we fear consequences, but because we would not want to give what is less to our fellow beings.  Chastity, lust, fear, greed all melt away under these circumstances.  If it is better for the other person, we simply do it.  If we provide anything less for them, we mourn that decision or falling short.  That is true sorrow for sin.  But it is always based in consecration and love and never in selfishness.  This is why our covenants of Consecration in the Temples are so important to propel us into a Terrestrial mindset.  We own nothing, but are simply stewards over what the Lord gave us to work with.  All that is asked of us, is that we do our best by what we are given.

So, to anwer the question, "Is there one true love?".  I say no.  I say we are capable of loving all men and women equally.  If we truly love someone, we are willing to give them up if we are no longer capable of helping them attain their greatest potential.  I know of an individual who is very selfish with his love.  His mindset being that;  "If I cannot have her, then no one else can have her."  Very controlling.  Very selfish.  Often this is the seed of those murder suicides that you always read about in the news.  This is of the devil.  I guess this is why I have always loved the story about the butterfly and releasing it.  If you love it, you will release it, and if it comes back to you, then it is always was yours.

I am a firm believer that this will be the test.  A woman (or man) will be allowed to see their potential from a heavenly perspective.  If they find that they have been able to attain the greatest heights with their current situation, then they will be allowed to choose and stay.  If not, they will have the chance to wing away to greater and greater opportunities in order to reach their potential.  Progression is limitless, but it is not coupled with compulsion or force in any degree.

So, polygamy, from this stance alone is an amazing concept.  For both the man and the woman.  Is there a true love?  Yes, there can be.  Is it a thing tied to this earth?  No, it is far beyond that.  Far beyond anything we can comprehend.  It is different over there; and we need to get over ourselves and begin to see it, or we will be damned in our progression.