THIS BLOG ATTEMPTS TO SHOW HOW SCIENCE IS CATCHING UP WITH REVEALED RELIGION

THIS BLOG IS AN ATTEMPT TO PUT ALL THE COOL STUFF THAT I BUMP INTO ABOUT THE SECOND COMING OF CHRIST AND EVENTS THAT LEAD UP TO IT INTO ONE LOCATION.
THE CONTENTS WILL BE FROM AN LDS PERSPECTIVE. IF YOU DISAGREE WITH ANYTHING IN HERE, I DO NOT PARTICULARLY CARE TO ARGUE, UNLESS YOU CAN ADD TO THIS BODY OF WORK. I HAVE AN OPEN MIND, THAT IS WHY I READ STUFF FROM ALL DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES AND SEEK LEARNING FROM THE BEST BOOKS. I JUST AM NOT HERE TO ARGUE ABOUT IT - BUT TO PUT IT OUT THERE WHERE OTHERS CAN PERUSE/PURSUE IT. I TAKE PARTICULAR INTEREST IN HONEST SEEKERS OF TRUTH AND BELIEVE THAT SCIENCE IS REVEALED RELIGION'S BEST ALLY. YOU WILL SEE ALOT OF TOPICS IN THIS BLOG THAT SHOW SCIENCE BACKING - AND SLOWLY CATCHING UP WITH - REVEALED RELIGION.
ENJOY!!

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

ADDICTED TO A LIFE OF LIESURE AND FUN

Had to swipe this.  This is chock-full of salient points and sage advice:

Why we are taking the FUN out of life





My kids have a problem...they think the ultimate goal in life is to have fun. I knew we had reached an all time low when I heard twice in one week my kids praying, "Please bless us to have a fun day tomorrow and a fun day the day after that." Is that what our prayers have become? Are our lives really so blissful that the blessing we ask for is "fun"? Are we so out of touch with others' needs and so removed from thanking the Lord that the only place we need God to intervene is to guarantee our fun? Yikes! Where have we gone wrong?
After some serious self-reflection, I realized that we've been creating these fun fed children. As they leave our car we smile, wave and shout, "Have fun!" After they return home from somewhere (school, practice, play date, church), the question is usually, "Did you have fun?" and if they didn't, there is often a decent amount of concern about what might be wrong and how we can remedy this un-fun problem!
Not only that, but we live in a culture full of cheap thrills and expensive entertainment that everyone feels like they MUST be a part of. You don't take a annual trip to Disneyland? Your poor kids! You aren't going to spend the day off at a trampoline park? Bummer! Your kids don't have iPhones or iTouches yet? So sad! You haven't seen FROZEN? How could you wait 2 weeks! Not joining a pool this summer? Yuck! You aren't going away for the 3 day weekend? What will you do at home!
See the problem is that FUN is a drug. Take a little and you want more. Take enough and it no longer satisfies. You need bigger, better, more expensive ways to fill you up. The simple moments are no longer satisfactory and the big events don't seem all that big anymore. Fun is a junk food diet that leaves you giddy for a moment, then hollow and wanting more. 
The kids learn it from somewhere...media, friends, and, yes, parents too. Our culture worships leisure, entertainment and FUN. As parents, we have forgotten how to have a good time with our kids without paying for someone to fabricate it for us. We have forgotten that the most fulfilling and closest relationships are not the ones based on constant FUN together but ones where we have worked, laughed, loved and struggled together. I don't want a cotton candy relationship with my kids...I want something substantial and real.
As I read biographies and listen to interviews with successful people who have changed the world, there seems to be a common thread in what they learned as a child and adolescent...HARD WORK. Doesn't matter which country they come from, their socioeconomic status, their gender, their beauty or lack of it, they succeed by working hard at something, for something or to merely survive, and these lessons almost always started at home.
So, this year, we are turning over a new leaf in our home. We are still huge advocates of enjoying life, seeing the positive and taking it all in. After all, this blog is dedicated to exploring together, and we are not going to loose our zest for that. We want to travel with our kids and show them the wonders of nature and different cultures. We love to play sports, take walks, visit the theater, attend concerts, hike, play games, swim, watch movies, and just be together, but...
This year we will work hard together too. We will create memories and strengthen relationships as we accomplish difficult things together. We will hold our boys accountable for their efforts in our family, in school, in sports, in  music, in hobbies and in their church duties. We will no longer ask our kids if they had fun, because frankly, we don't care. They can choose to make every experience fun if they want to...it's up to them and absolutely possible. But we will no longer worry about creating fun for them or shielding them from hardships, unpleasantness, or heaven forbid...boredom! We want them to reap more than fun from this existence. We want them to be fulfilled. We want them to reach their potential. We want them to be excellent.

We will change our questions and our focus and instead ask, "Did you learn something?" "Did you feel productive?" "Did you work hard?" "Did you try your best?" "Were you a good friend?" "Did you try something new?" "Did you push yourself?" "Did you make some one's day better?" "Did you add value?" "Did you create something?" "Did you grow?" "Did you discover something?" "Did you change the world today, even in a small way?"

Because when you can answer yes to any of those questions, that's when life gets really FUN.

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